Hope - I didn't mean to come across as critical. I admire the way you conduct yourself, and having watched you post over almost the whole period [I am very little behind you] I KNOW you are not uncaring.
I also agree that reducing the contact helps us to feel much better. I think you have fully dropped the rope, and distanced yourself from the whole mess. Oddly enough though, I think your h having that long conversation [was it September 07] in which he acknowledged his own hurt, and what he had done, may have helped closure.
I haven't had that conversation, and I would like to have it. It would help me to move on. I will manage without it, but I felt when you described it so movingly, YESSSS this is what I would like to hear, to help me heal.
