mmbug, I was thinking about the wedding ring thing too. H&I still wear ours, though I took off my engagement ring the other day. Our Ds would notice if we stopped wearing our rings--believe it or not, they are very observant. Ultimately, wearing or not wearing them seems like the least of the issues to me. We are still legally married and H agrees--so while we don't talk about the rings, I doubt we'd take them off until an actual D occurred.
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08