Once again, I do think you and I are married to the same woman. Where did all the anger and unhappiness come from? Life is too short. why do they constantly chisel away at any sel-esteem we had? the point about dancing with your wife made me laugh. we all have weird idosyncracies. I used to think my W's were adorable, and endearing to me. Mine just "annoyed" her. "Important" things like me driving at or just slightly above the speed limit would send her into orbit, and ruin the whole trip anywhere for her. You know, all those important things! If she (or my W. is not "happy", that'a an "Individual Soldier Task". Your attitued is really the sh*t! No desire to win her back is RIGHT where we all need to be. Not letting her emotions control your emotions is a huge win! Great job!