Time is no longer on my side. Any suggestions would be appreciated, except the I told you to follow through with the settlement earlier. Lol!
I’m not even a month into sobriety and I have felt the “pink cloud” of “oh ya I’m sober” starting to already lift. I’ve been sick for the last 4 days and have had a lot of time to pace and think. What I do. Well basically I am back to chapter 1. I don’t know what I want. Well I do, a family a loving R, etc… but I don’t think it is possible with who W is now, and I don’t think she is coming back to the person I ever knew.
Here’s the problem:
I sent W a settlement prior to getting involved with a sponsor in AA. My sponsor knows I’m going through a D but, that is about it. He asked me to pull back, and we talked about it a little and he said lets wait and see, pull it back if you can. So I asked W to wait and she did.
Well W called tonight, to let me know that she has been diagnosed as bi-polar. Something I have suspected for some time. Her mother and one of her sisters is as well, all three think the doctors are wrong and have chosen to do nothing about it. I’m sick of dealing with all of it, and just think it is best to cut my losses and move on.
That brings about the tough part, W has found a town home that she wants to try and buy, and she is saying this week. Well W doesn’t exactly fully understand the financial world to well, she is going to be super pissed to find she can’t get a loan because she is tied into our home. We can’t sell because the market is down and we don’t have the funds for the loss.
So my fear is if I don’t get her to settle before she tries to purchase this town home, she will freak out, and decide a trial is the way to go and then that will cost me another 20 to 30k in cash and time and agony.
I’m going to speak to my sponsor tomorrow, but I think it is done. What do you guys think?
