Was2, I am usually " to the point " in reponse and I don't elaborate anymore like I used to. No more detailed puppy tales about puppy tails (lol). Call it a 180 if you will. After years (wow, yes, years) of being a certain, predictable way, I got tired. I decided to act differently; not to elicit a response out of him, but for me. So I'd feel better. Taking back the power I let him have for far too long. It made me feel inferior, always bending over backward for him when he would contact me.
Does that make sense?
graceallday, no, we are not D'ed yet, just leg. sep. but it's been a year and 1/2 of that now, and almost three years since H shot off into replay, which he isn't in anymore but that doesn't really matter at all. My greatest piece of advice to folks here is do not sit around waiting for "that day" when your H/W isn't in replay anymore. That is not synonomous with reconciling. There is no guarantee they will want to work things out, no matter how patient you are through this.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
