thanks for your response and i do understand what your are saying.....I know it sounds petty ...I think its the source since it came form H attorney and belive me we have way huger issues that what she calls me..namely financial..so whos cares about my title,,,but i was really wondering what is proper..I am asking are you only MRS if you are married? I know you are no a MRS prior to marriage but is it stil proper to be Mrs after the divorce??? Now if I did not have kids I would consider your stance of taking back my madien name...althought I still may get stuck based on my beliefs about divorce....so humm interesting