Why wait for next month....start today! Chances are your STBXW is like mine.....completely NOT the person that you married. Can't say why that one is....what is going on with them but I have realized the sooner that you come to grips with that, it makes it easier to deal with.
I still hold out hope that my XW will again become the person taht I fell in love with, however, I am not stopping my life and waiting around. I am enjoying and living life! Having her (the woman that I married) would just be a plus!
Hang in there....we are all supporting you!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids