Rockdog there is one thing I don't see anyone having mentioned to you so I will.
While you are doing so much fretting and worrying about your "WAW", there is something you are supposed to be doing OTHER THAN sitting/standing around feigning "patience".
You are supposed to be EXAMINING YOURSELF.
What part did you play in ending up where you are today?
You are in despair and regret. If your wife were to decide tomorrow she wanted to get back together I could promise you you WOULD end up back here. Time is actually on your side although I know you don't feel like that right now. When you get the focus OFF your wife and ONTO yourself and all the years that have passed with your wife being slowly led to THIS place, you will THEN be able to make positive headway.
Until then, you can 'make nice' and "validate" til the cows come home but you won't be learning sh*t!
To get this learning process underway you need to get your eyes off your wife and instead go take a long, soul-searching look in the mirror.
