OK, AGAIN, my H has managed to push my buttons and totally depress me. And I had been feeling, stronger, healthier, and less depressed this past week, GAL, and DBing so well I thought. It started like this: (feel free to tell me all my mistakes and what I did wrong!) I was telling my H about a conversation with my friend who I have reconnected with, who divorced but she went through marriage counseling before she did, even though she had been unhappy for 22 years, giving her H a chance to make several changes before she did so which he made no effort to do. My H then said well marriage counseling would be of no use in our case because even if I wasn't in love with the OW, I would want to date other women because we got involved too young, (he was 19 and I was 21 and we were in college). Perhaps that is a valid point of his??? However when he first got involved with the OW, he told me if he wasn't involved with the OW, he wouldn't be wanting to divorce. But I guess maybe he could have decided in the past 6 weeks that he is having so much fun dating, that he should have dated more before we started living together/married? So that devastated me! Then he tells me right away, I haven't seen the OW enough this week, (they usually see each other every night after work and Saturday morning, but had to miss one or two nights this week), so he was going to take her out tonight on a date. I think that is just really blatant behavior and a bad role model for the kids and upsetting to me of course. I asked him to try to be discreet about his affair and that I thought that the blatant dating was bad for the kids, 8D and 14S. He yelled he could date whenever he wanted to (I will be mentioning this to my divorce attorney this week though as an example of his recent poor parenting judgment though so I may have the last laugh on this one although I didn't tell him that.) I then let it go and acted like nothing had happened the next hour we were together, acted normal & even pleasant, as we took the kids to lunch. I came home and cleaned the house while he watched sports for an hour. He took a 2 hour nap and went off on his date!!! Karen43
