HELP!! my 25 y/o H walked out... maybe mlc? HELP!!

[darkestangel]

Thank you! This site has been a life saver. I do see improvements in us now that I've been applying the db tactics. Since I haven't brought up OR in a week or so, he doesn't seem as cold when we talk. We can joke and chat sometimes, usually on the phone when he calls. When he picks up/ drops off d3, he usually runs in and run out.

H came by today to pick up d3 for the weekend. H actually called me "babe", when he was asking me for a bag to hold some of d3's clothes. I acted completley oblivious, as not to draw attention to it, but inside I was smiling.

That's one of the most awkward things about all this, him calling me by my first name. He's always called me Babe. I've always called him Papa Bear, Babe or Hon. Since he walked out and dropped the bomb, we've been on a first-name basis, which is just wierd!

H also asked to take the xbox 360. H plays ALOT of video games (he used to play 30+ hours in a week, and buy whatever new games came out every week, even if we could not afford it). When he moved out, he took every console he had (which was alot), but left the xbox 360 because I use it like a dvd player for d3's dvds. H asked to take it, and I said No We use it every day. H offered to replace it with a new dvd player, and I still said No. Dvd players are maybe $50, and it's going to cost him at LEAST $300 for a new xbox 360. H took the harddrive to the 360 though, whatever that is.

Maybe I should just let him have it? I don't want to seem spiteful, but inside, aren't we all just a bit? It was so easy for H to take everything he wanted and just walk out. H tried to take the 42-inch flatscreen tv we bought last year, and this computer, and I wouldn't let him. He doesn't have anywhere to put them since he's at his mom's house, I use the computer because I take my classes online and d3 watches the tv.

H has lot alot of weight, he's working out at the gym alot. He kinda doesn't really look me in the eye when we see each other, it's wierd. And when he does for a bried second, he just doesn't look like him. It's almost like I want to touch his face and say, "it's okay, come back to me. It's safe", but I know I can't and I know it won't help anything. He looks like he's in very deep denial about something.

Conincidently, my horoscope today said,

"You may appear more scattered than you truly are, yet others can appreciate your current need for independence. Instead of criticizing you or assuming that your life is unstable, they can see how you come alive when you are free from the judgment. Don't wait for the door to close; take the opportunity while it is yours."

And H's horoscope said,

"You may be tiring of the games you need to play in order to keep the spark of a relationship alive now. Fortunately, there is light ahead and you can see that your efforts to rekindle love have a good chance of paying off. But make sure you remain flexible, for a romantic dance can take a variety of forms over the days and weeks ahead."

Of course, I don't put too much trust in the validity of the myspace.com horoscopes, but it seemed like a nice sign.

Thank you, cat, for everything. You've been my DB Lifesaver!!