GRRRR! H just called from Denver. I almost ignored the phone, I am in the middle of cleaning the basement which I haven't done in months. But we left things crappy last night after the car argument so I was curious what tone he would have. Apparently, a crappy one. H: I am getting the kids shirts. What size should I get D, 2 or 3? D is 20 mos. old. For Christmas we bought her 2T clothes. He KNOWS this. Me: Look at the shirts. Do they run small? H: I.....[phone call drops as I am on cell in basement} I go upstairs, try to call from house phone. Get vmail. H calls back. H: I don't have time for this, I am not at the place yet. I just wanted to know what size. I didn't need you to start a big issue about it. I will figure it out myself. Me: I only asked about the size bc when we went to San Antonio, shirts for S ran small. She wears a 2. But you don't get to call me for help and cop an attitude with me. H: I will just figure it out myself. NEVERMIND. Me: I said, you don't get to be rude to me when I am trying to help. If you are going to call me just to pick a fight like last night, DON'T call me. H: Fine, I won't. I will figure it out. Me: D is a size 2. S is a size 5. If in regular sizes, S is a Small. H: Okay Me: Just trying to help you out. H: Okay...[hangs up]
So I pretty much start to burst into tears when he hangs up. WTF?? He called to ask me about their shirts. He is NOT dumb, we just bought Christmas clothes and HE went shopping with my MIL for our kids. So he KNOWS their sizes!? I don't get why he would call me to pick a fight with me. Makes me want to just never talk to him again. I read something in a book and heard it on the radio recently. It said that when deciding which friends are your real friends/relationships are your valuable ones, ask yourself this question: "After spending time with this person, do I feel better than I did before spending time with them? If yes, keep the relationship. If no, end the relationship." So that would mean end the relationship bc I end up feeling worse 8 times out of 10 these days. But maybe it is just the alien. With my OLD H, I felt BETTER 8 times out of 10....
