I am in the same situation-W has not told S (19,17)that she has filed for D. I suspect that all hell will break loose once that bomb is dropped. I too will fight for M and will do anything it takse to keep it. Right now we have told the kids that we decided to "separate" and it was a mutual decision (even tho it was not).
I don't want to put the kids in the middle but am curious. Has your childrens resentment of their mother made any difference?
