When do they?

[Jen1967]

Just to clarify to chocolate eyes: I did the thing where I tried to improve myself, but after 3 months I gave him the ultimatum too. I realized that in the goal to be succinct on here I left that out. I pretty much made it clear right before counseling and during our counseling session that I would not work on the marriage with the OW involved. The C said to him he needs to make a decision. I had started to back way off the couple weeks prior and didn't interact as much with him. What I'm saying is, I totally agree with your approach, because after doing all you can it really does come down to self-respect and what we do or don't have to put up with.

I ended up melding two approaches, the divorce busting one, and the tough love approach, after I divorce busted as long as I could. So far I think my instincts were good. Personally I feel too many people on here divorce bust and put up with crappy behavior for too long. Sometimes I think the message needs to be clear that you won't take any more garbage from them. The only way the fool sees the light is when the wheels start coming off.

I think I'm rambling...

Peace, out.