I wasn't going to respond since the last time I did on your other forum kind of exploded into what was the term? Witchhunt? That was the fartherst thing from my mind when I posted to you. I was very upset and concerned when I read how your H had treated you sexually. You have not referred to any of that here in this forum and you probably did so on purpose. Some of these folks may not have read your thread in Newcomers. You are still blaming yourself Ann and expecting way too much of yourself under the circumstances. It amazes me that you even have a desire to stay hooked up in the M much less try to improve the SL. Anyway, I still believe the treatment from your H has taken its toll on your sex drive. How could it not affect it? So, stop being so hard on yourself and please stop making excuses for your H's behavior.
I hope I have not lost a friend in you by what I have said. I am just upset at what you are being put through and concerned for you. You are a special person and should be treated that way.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
