Alison, honestly I don't right care if he's still cooking or not. I am not worried about it anymore. I just cannot pour anymore precious time into if, when, etc. I still care about him and I always will, but I have a life to live. We all do. I think many of these spouses get a far longer chance, timewise, than they deserve.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
