I am not at all surprised that all walks of people are on there - they are everywhere.
Of course. Given my background, that is the last place I'd ever hang out. The purpose of it was, xbf was quite insistent on convincing me how it was 'no big deal.' I was getting quite frustrated with him not 'hearing' me. It was interesting to me, his reaction, when I told him I had created an account, etc. All of a sudden, it was a 'big deal.' And that I didn't tell him... LOL!
I realize there are some things that are just different for men and women... but the reactions and the feelings we have to things (whether I think it is a big deal, or you do, or he does) come from similar places. And though we may not understand what 'sets someone else off,' the feelings behind it are genuine. To then stand there and say to someone... 'wtf, why are you being this way? This isn't a big deal...' that just minimizes someone. Invalidates them.
Which we all here, have experienced time and time again. We all know how much that hurts.
It was saying to him... 'you're hurting me. Stop it. If you don't want to, for your own reasons, that's fine. But don't minimize me in the process, or try to talk me out of something I'm feeling.' He understood, then, what I meant.
Kinda goes back to that whole 'acceptance' thing again. Everybody wants to be accepted for Who They Are. The other side of that equation, of the equal side of it is, in having someone accept you, you, in turn, accept them. <-- THAT is the hard part.
