Time for some changes. After a few days of text flirting H did not respond to my initiating it the last two nights. I'm done initiating that, back to not texting unless he texts me first. I have been good about not calling, so I'll keep that up.

Yesterday he came to the rink to she D10. I asked him his plans for today and asked about taking me shooting. H has talked before about taking me. That is one of his hobbies that I have never taken part in and I have been trying to show more interest. 180. H said the outdoor range is closed until March. I asked about an indoor and he said it is too crowded on the weekend. Don't know if that is his real reason for no or if he just doesn't want to take me. H left to take D15 to a game w/ her friend.

H shows back up to the rink much to my surprise. Mentions that the car maker he has is offer great rebates and extra to owner of that make. Wants to know if I want one. My car was just paid off last month. I tell H I don't want to have a big car payment and a house note if I'm alone. H doesn't bite the bait to let me know his intentions towards a D or the M and just says w/ money he will be getting from work we will be able to pay cash. H leaves it at that. I said we will see when the money comes through. I have decided that the next time H brings up a car I need to come out and ask him what his motive is.

I have decided that I need to find something new for me to do. A new hobby, something that H will be surprised to find out I am doing. Something physical would be the best.

I asked H last night his plans for today and the Ds. Said he will be here around lunch. Asked if he wants time alone w/ Ds and he said he would rather have that next weekend since he will be going out of town the end of the month. I told H I don't mind him being there while I am as long as he is comfortable w/ it. Why is it H can be here on my time but not me on his? I need to remember it is about the Ds and not me.

Now I have to worry about if the OW (CFB as Jenny would say) is going too.


Me: 41
H: 42
DDs: 10 & 15
M: 19yrs.
Bomb: June 2007
Separated:10/28/07
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