Being Me, I sure do know what it's like to feel like a single parent sometimes! My W used to be so busy working that much of the load for taking kids here and there fell on me. Now, because she has to she is taking on a lot more responsibility and NOT asking or just expecting me to do things. I can remember at times even cancelling things or just skipping my activities to accomidate her, no more (maybe the odd time, I still try to maintain flexibility, you can't just become extreme either way in my mind anyway). So, today it is off to my aerobics class at noon then to do a little grocery shopping in the afternoon, later I will meet my woman friend for dinner and then off to an early church service together. I'm keeping busy! Just a thought on my earlier topic, about being more outgoing with women and wondering what they think etc. Again, today I did something I wouldn't normally do in years gone by. It's no biggie but I notice these small changes in myself. I was getting into the elevator and my "laundry hamper buddy" ( )got on, I held the door for her, she thanked me and then stepped to the back of the elevator. Others were on the elevator so it was crowded I just punched my floor and then hers. Now, I wouldn't have done that previously because it says that I am aware of her and that her existence is significant enough to me that I would remember her floor. It's all part of the not looking available or interested thing you do when you are married but now I do it. She didn't respond, nor did I expect her to, but she does know that I am aware of her. Make sense? Now , in hindsight, I might have asked "what floor" and punched it because it could possibly make a woman uncomfortable knowing that a stranger remembers her floor but again, who knows. I'm just trying to get along and trying to figure things out that I haven't had to in years!
)got on, I held the door for her, she thanked me and then stepped to the back of the elevator. Others were on the elevator so it was crowded I just punched my floor and then hers. Now, I wouldn't have done that previously because it says that I am aware of her and that her existence is significant enough to me that I would remember her floor. It's all part of the not looking available or interested thing you do when you are married but now I do it. She didn't respond, nor did I expect her to, but she does know that I am aware of her. Make sense? Now , in hindsight, I might have asked "what floor" and punched it because it could possibly make a woman uncomfortable knowing that a stranger remembers her floor but again, who knows. I'm just trying to get along and trying to figure things out that I haven't had to in years!
