I am one year post divorce this past December. At this point in time, I don't even get the shivers any more when my ex-wife calls, texts, or emails.
I saw her at Christmas time to exchange the boys and I can honestly say, there is nothing there anymore inside of me towards her. I recognize the face, can see flashes of the person she used to be, but that's about it.
You will get there too. And to be sure, should you reach the point of walking arm in arm with another, you will know what I mean.
Just like we tell the new people who come to this place in such pain...there are positives even in the midst of the chaos. As time passes we find ourselves more and more able to both SEE those positive and ENJOY them. I know that you know just what I'm talking about.
You know that I have found the ultimate truth in the midst of this mess - that it is possible you will find new love one day. And I can tell you that when that happens, it has an amazing capacity for bringing that final dose of inner healing that we all long for. God has blessed me with Deb, and he will bless you too one day.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
