Does the WAS agonize over the short and long term implications of the separation and D on the children? I have been reading "The unexpected legacy of divorce" by Wallerstein. It breaks my heart to read about the implications our (her) actions are going to have on our children. The next step in our situation is telling the children (S19,17)that "we" have moved from separation to "your mom has filed for divirce" (D was filed by W on 11/21/07). I don't imagine giving her the book is a smart idea either.
As I did when the separation announcements was made I told the children that "we" have decided to separate. It will take every and I mean every ounce of strength to give the same answer about the decision to D. I am reminded that to take the high road is the best policy. I dont't think I can live with myself by saying "we" decided to divorce when every fiber of my being wants to shout "this is your mothers decision not mine".
I imagine the guilt my W is feeling to be unbearable. Her actions seem to indicate otherwise.
