I can relate to what you are saying regarding loyalty and honesty. The most important and attractive thing I found with my ex was this. It was a total turn on. He is the opposite. It is a total turn off.

He lies and lies and lies and lies about everything.....

It is so weird. It is part of the process, accept it and watch God take care of it for you. Your H will get caught up in his lies that he lies to get out of the lies and than lies some more.

They can't even remember their lies.

Don't point out their lies or rebuke them in any way.... Just watch

People catch on, it does take a while, but they catch on. The people who thought you were a bitch and a angry wife will change their mind.

God has a way with justice.

They start bottoming out

and slowly become more normal

Patience is the key

Letting go is important

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11