Cat, This is a long, slow process... but he IS making progress. This will take a lot of patience and strength on your part.
It's one thing to know that what your'e doing is harmful (i.e. analyzing things with OW despite the harmful effects on your M) and actually stopping doing it. Only he can get to that place where he's ready to move past the past.
Patience and strength. You can do it.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
