Good to hear your at a good place. There's no easy way. It's basically you calling or sending a certified letter explaining that your goal is still to improve your relationship but, failing any work on her part, that you will need to begin splitting the finances as soon as possible to arrange for your return. A little cold hard reality about getting the house ready for sale and preparing for a downgrade in lifestyle to support two separate households is needed. Yes, she will spit and moan. You didn't and don't choose this but it has to be done. Can you get any legal aid while over there? If so, the do it. You might also speak to the chaplin and see what aid he/she can provide. Your chain of command will be able to help some as well so don't overlook them in getting advice and support, if simply moral support.
