Thanks one and all. A good mix of understanding, support and as* kicking, the combination of which was very helpful. Thanks for the time and detail you put into your responses to me. I can't chnage what is happeneing here.
I do need some tactical support with the following issue, and will need you all to advise me on how to “shape the battlefield” here.
A while ago, I emailed WAS, and informed her that I would like to start saving money. D17 was in school in Utah for out-of-control kids to the tune of about 9K/month. W. said “we couldn’t afford it” back then, so I backed off. I cannot split my disbursement from my Army check to two accounts, so it goes into our joint account.
I obviously need to begin to save some money. The Army allows you to put money in an account that will yield 10%, pretty good. I would write a check monthly and put it into that account.
WAS and I have not talked about what happens when I come home at all. D17 told me last night WAS wants a divorce. They’ve talked about it in the family counseling sessions over the phone. Got it. I toald D17 that would not be my choice, and moved on. I didn't look for any support from her. Just reassured her, I had no control over what happens, but we'll work through whatever it is. I REFUSE TO SAY THIS IS FOR THE BEST, OR EVERYONE WILL BE BETTER FOR THIS. Talking with WAS is really a painful experience, so I haven’t done it. Any email is never met with a response.
I don’t know how badly she’s strapped for money, and have no access to my account. She has had the basement remodeled since I’ve been here.
Here’s the question: What’s the best way to inform her, I’d like to put away $1000/month, without blowing this up worse. Remember, it’s always anger!!!
