Thanks for the support! I tried to "fix" my H situation tonight. Called him back. Told him that the reason I challenged the car-buying idea was bc I wasn't sure it was the right idea. And that at our last MC (2 weeks ago), H said he is frustrated bc too often in our marriage, I go along w/what he wants so I don't make waves, that I have stopped voicing my opinion over the years and he hates it. So I told him that the "new" me--I had told him recently that I am working on myself--was going to have to be free to voice my opinion if we are going to try to work on anything together. His response, "Fine, but I don't have to agree with your opinion and you can't CRY when I disagree with you." I had started crying earlier bc at one point he said, "If it doesn't work out [us], at least you will have a new car". I told him the "if it doesn't work out" comment upset me bc we are supposedly "trying to fix it", and that I am not projecting our failure at this point. His response, "fine." Naively, I try again as I hang up, "I just didn't want us to end our conversation on a negative tone". His response, "FINE!" [angry]. So I hung up at that point. AAAAGH! Starting to wonder if I should just avoid talking to him at all, we were doing so well the past 3 or 4 days then tonight, he is in total crab mode again. Of course, I am not with him in Denver, maybe he had a rough day. He is worried his company was bought out on Tues. and now he's been out of the office for 3 days. SO his frustration may have nothing to do with me. It is just so frustrating bc he told the counselor he thinks I go along with his decisions all the time to keep the peace instead of being the "real me". But when the "real me" disagrees with him, he becomes this angry, immature guy?? Gee, I wonder why I started just going along with what he wanted in the first place?? Oh well, can't dwell. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day. Anyway thanks for the understanding. Sorry about your sitch. I know how you feel, I would probably invite H to the movie, then if he back-pedaled or declined I would feel like I "screwed up the DB-ing". So hard to work on a relationship when you feel like you are always strategizing??
