The van does need brakes! Rear ones. Talked to S26, he'll put them on on a Sat he has to work and isn't busy. I think I'd like to know things that I did to get us where we are at, but you might be right. See if she'll go to Ret, and discuss there.
Mom was let out of hospital. They sent her to a nursing home to get her leg strength better. Worked, then to rehab and back to work, some OT, extra money!
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
quote]I think I'd like to know things that I did to get us where we are at, but you might be right. See if she'll go to Ret, and discuss there.
Hi mike, we all want to know what we are guilty of. After all the months H has been gone and feed back I have gotten from him, and postings I realize H is not looking at the world in a realistic mind! Things he accussed me of were not true and have told him so, then documented. H @ that point started quesitoning his own believe. What I am trying to say MLC minds play games. Try as best you can to be R to mim. until Retro.
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Mom was let out of hospital. They sent her to a nursing home to get her leg strength better. Worked, then to rehab and back to work, some OT, extra money!
Oh, <sigh> good news on Mom. Easy on over working yourself. Still can not believe your W filed D 2 wks after major surgery. Lot of anger in her.
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
I've caught a cold so I can't go see mom for a few days, don't want to give it to her or others there. When she had me served I was still hurting very badly and unable to do almost anything.S's and D19 went to see their grandma tonight.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
Mom is getting out of nursing home Feb 1, she'll have nurses come to her apt to exercise her. had court today, continued until March 31. Magistrate thought W filing for D 2 weeks after I came home from hospital was "bad timing". Guess it gives me a few more weeks to DB and work on Retro. Let me know if DB coaches advice works.
I have reached a peace within myself that if D happens it won't be the end of the world. I think eventually she'll come out of the fog, maybe I'll still be standing or I may have moved on. I know there are couples who D, find out the grass isn't greener and get back together. I think she needs to find out her married BF probably is leading her on, has no intentions of leaving his W for her. Then she'll crash and hit bottom.
mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
micoms, still here and yes H backed out. ONly response he gives to anything is, "I don't know".
LOL there is a bit of humor to this. H spoke with presenter for Retro. and by feedback H gave me every Q he was asked ....the answer was..... You guessed it, "I don't know". Retro representative told him he better get his head to gether first and to stop hurting people !!!!! Bit of wake up call there?
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
Maybe hearing that from someone outside of you will cause him to think, but if he's in MLC he only thinks about himself. The seed has been planted, give it time , it might bloom when you least expect it. Good to hear from you again. Went to bowling lanes tonight, saw old friends. Saw a couple of women there that sounded interested in meeting up some time. One's D'd the other is going through one now.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
Maybe hearing that from someone outside of you will cause him to think, but if he's in MLC he only thinks about himself.
mike, before i forget, your stitch thread locked and besure to let me know name of your new thread. Thanks for comfort on H kicking me down again. lol Yes,do believe H having another Man tell him he is really f**king with people's emotions and hurting people was a real slap in face. H that I married would never play with someone like that. Would you believe just this moring I HAD to Call HIM in ref. business!!!! Again I told H pain from him had to stop, if he wants to attend M/R retro. or such he has my phone number. H seemed so sad, I just don't get it. So that is where I stand, no more be friends and then the depression, either he steps forward or our marriage is for legal reasons. I am at the end of being deeply hurt. Guess guys when their young learn to block emotional pain like this and can handle emotions better. Do believe H thought we could be friends and he, happy with his OW, not going to be that way. So for now he has what he wants.
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The seed has been planted, give it time , it might bloom when you least expect it. Good to hear from you again. Went to bowling lanes tonight, saw old friends. Saw a couple of women there that sounded interested in meeting up some time.
Careful with other relationships. Consider this, what if you date, become very close to this OP and W would like to try Retro, etc. Now where are you going to be? Hurt all over again because either the OP will have to go or W. That is why I post for others do not date till you are done with the M. Don't get me wrong I am not judging you and I am at the point about to start going out with someone myself. Just don't want you to get hurt, that is all. Then again if you have a woman friend who says lets just go out and see if W hears about it , I guess that is different. Although not being honest with your W. <sigh> We all have to do what is best for ourself. BTW, have you set up a phone coach session?
Mike [/quote]
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
Thanks for letting me know my thread locked, thought it would be soon, a lot of pages. I guess you need to detach some more. H could be sad because he realizes his thinking that everyone could be a big happy family was just wishful thinking, now he's faced with the reality of it.
I'm not looking for a relationship right now, just someone to go to a movie, have dinner with ... Miss someone my age of the opposite sex to talk to. Women from bowling lanes and I have been friends for years, nothing more than seeing them in the lounge after bowling and talking with them and others.
Haven't set up coaching session yet, haven't been getting home early enough to call. Going to D24's house tomorrow to see her and GS. Will be dressed up, hopefully W will be there and notice. I'll tell her meeting a friend for a couple of drinks.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
H could be sad because he realizes his thinking that everyone could be a big happy family was just wishful thinking, now he's faced with the reality of it.
Certainly do hope his Family dream is shattered and am actually now wishing could make him hurt as he has hurt me. Which is not me at all, to want to hurt someone. Honestly believe the gentleman from Retro. really hit home with what ever exactly he said. maybe just straight talk from another male was what did it I don't know. Do know something rattled him. Still going to send him the B gift as it is his 50th and I have had the gift for a very long long time (b/f bomb) and wish to get rid of it. To lazy to list it on ebay so just send down to him.
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I'm not looking for a relationship right now, just someone to go to a movie, have dinner with ... Miss someone my age of the opposite sex to talk to. Women from bowling lanes and I have been friends for years, nothing more than seeing them in the lounge after bowling and talking with them and others.
GEE, are there any nice guys you know at the bowling lanes who just wish a beer or two and movie. What i wouldn't give to just go out for a couple beers!!!! lol Couple is about my limit, meds I take keep me in line really quick when comes to drinking. lol No leading those lovely ladies on from you, as we all know what pain feels like! I have thought about your stitch and W so many times. Keeps coming back to there has to be something big that isn't being said. something more than just you and the M. No one (unless financially forced) stays with a low paying job working All weekends and very odd night time weekday hours. Something anti-social need going on with your W. Do you see that or am I out in left field??? Long time ago I worked at a sub shop/youth center setup in small town. Well went to work, later afternoon and rarely got home before 1 or 2:30 AM, ok for a while. But then you start realizing when you are off the rest of world is working or asleep. When everyone else is off and having fun, you are working or sleeping. doesn't take long you never have a nice dinner with the family, never get to do normal weekend relaxing stuff, etc. Which you have watched and experienced before W and her bomb. Anyone who wishes to be a part of society changes jobs or changes work schedule, at least a bit. When I worked this schedule I had every third or fourth weekend off. Job was a lot of fun just after while you want to rejoin society and family. this must be what the MC you two went to bigged up on right away and ask about W's background. Mike just has to be a lot more behind W's wall she is not letting anyone see.
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Haven't set up coaching session yet, haven't been getting home early enough to call.
Do Do, you will be glad you did. Believe the offices are open till late, like 8 or 9pm, so big up telephone and make call. Write down short notes and questions wish to ask. Honest worth the money. I am going to wait a while to see if H ever has another comment and then may call again. Remember for me, had to stop seeing him because of pain causing me. You are stronger so, Call.
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Will be dressed up, hopefully W will be there and notice.
very good and you are going to feel so smart with your self. Bet you'll even have a big smile on your silly face! grid, lost
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
Certainly do hope his Family dream is shattered and am actually now wishing could make him hurt as he has hurt me. Which is not me at all, to want to hurt someone. Honestly believe the gentleman from Retro. really hit home with what ever exactly he said. maybe just straight talk from another male was what did it I don't know. Do know something rattled him. Still going to send him the B gift as it is his 50th and I have had the gift for a very long long time (b/f bomb) and wish to get rid of it. To lazy to list it on ebay so just send down to him.
Do Do, you will be glad you did. Believe the offices are open till late, like 8 or 9pm, so big up telephone and make call. Write down short notes and questions wish to ask. Honest worth the money. I am going to wait a while to see if H ever has another comment and then may call again. Remember for me, had to stop seeing him because of pain causing me. You are stronger so, Call.