Hey, just pulled this from one of my old old posts, I was replying to someone else and sharing things I found helpful (like cleavage! Yikes!!! Sorry, that wouldn't help you)...
"One thing that has helped me is to think that since I love my husband so deeply, I need to support whatever decision he makes and be his friend... even if it means he no longer wants a life with me. It is excrutiatingly painful, but I like the idea of exiting with class. Good luck to you!"
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.