I dont want to be separated

[minkerman]

I know what you mean when you say you take your life for granted. Turns out my W was unhappy for years, but I didn't know HOW unhappy. I told her the other day, if you would have grabbed me by the shoulders, looked me in the eye and said "X, Y and Z have to change for me OR I WILL LEAVE YOU", don't you think you might have gotten my attention then? But no, every few months she would just give me an "I'm unhappy" or "I don't like our life" and then I wouldn't hear anything again for a few months.

She told me she "tried everything" but I said "no, you tried the same thing over and over".

So I know what you mean when you say you didn't see it coming.