ok I need some perspecitive here. My H and I are in the D process. I got the bomb in feb 2005. i found out within 2 weeks there was ow...it was deny deny deny...then finally in 2006 he admitted it to me alone...once and then never again..oh until i caught them in our home about a year ago..then he said come on its been 2 years..then he introduced her to our son said she was a friend, when son questioned him that is was more than that he was adament nothing more at all...son never sees her again that i know of and she is still in hiding I be quiet about her....because he has son convinced and I always had this hope tiny hope that by hiding her..it made it easier for him to come back....u know the less people who know about her....they say easier for them to come back...i have such strong beleifs against divorce and believe me if i didnt this wouldnt be so hard...i am a nice, attractive women and i even have a good job and make a very decent income...anyway.....just had a conversation with our realtor who told me she is sure my h has no girlfriend..she has such a way of bringing the subject up i sit here and think about how it was done and i guess i walked right into it..anyway she say oh he doesnt have anyone, he has looked me right in the face .......and then my h counsler told me that last summer too......well see i know his cell phone code and i know not to snoop and when i do its in hopes i wont find anything.....but i do , so i know its a fact......my question is this...he is d me.....its in the works....why oh why is it still a secret...i mean it makes me have no respect for him...does he really think noone knows...its like he is living 2 lives...since she is at his work i am sure those people know even if it is hidden there which i doubt u know how they all know......gosh...the hardest part is ......the parts about him that i loved the most was his loyality and what he stood for honor and the rest and now there is none of that......does that make sense the fact that he is hiding her makes it worse to me...can anyone help me with perspective??
