CRAP! So my MIL called last night--she calls every other day to check in on us, always has. Anyway, I mentioned my H's company might be sold and he's scared he may lose his job. She said, "That will be hard with a mortgage to pay." I said, "Yeah, and apartment rent and furniture"--my H said his parents know he is moving out. Then again, he also told his mom he left OW a week before he actually did. Anyway, she said, "Well, he hasn't got an apartment, he has just looked at them." Hello?? He moves in MONDAY!! So I said, "I know he put down a deposit." I am not telling her the story bc it isn't my place and H HATES when I talk to MIL behind his back about our sitch, even though she will call and tell me things he tells her that make our sitch sound WAY less serious?? She says, "Well, that's silly he put down a deposit but I am sure he won't actually decide to move. And he better not get furniture bc we have a ton here at the house he knows he can use." It's true, his mom is yard sale and auction-obsessed and I swear has a hoarding fetish. They have a crapload of furniture and assorted crud all over their house. But anyway, the point is: 1)MIL (H's mom) thinks he won't really move out 2)MIL thinks he'd ask her for furniture instead of buying new In reality 1)H is moving out MONDAY! (In 3 days!) 2)H and I went to the furniture store and he got almost $3000 worth of furniture, bedding, etc.
So, I know 1)A lot of H's problems, why he seems to be in a downward spiral, is his Mom has always been way overinvolved and told him how to run his life, so he is rebelling to an extent over thinking I am also trying to run his life 2)H can't stand it if I tell his mom things he doesn't want her to know (this has been a pattern all 16 yrs we've been together, he would even have me lie about coming up to visit him in college if he thought it would make her mad), so I CAN'T tell her about his moving out. 3)When finally sharing his feelings Tues night, H said he feels all women have an agenda and he may never be able to trust a woman--I think this is partly due to me, partly due to his obsessed recently-ex-OW whom he calls PSYCHO, and a LOT due to his meddling mom.
So, What do I do? I am thinking I should say/do nothing. But his mom will be super pi$$ed if she calls the house next week to talk to H and then I say he moved out. H has called me 2x a day from his trip to Denver the past 2 days. I am trying to be upbeat and NO R talk since he keeps contacting me. So to talk to him about MIL and tell him he needs to tell her about his move would be a MAJOR mood-killer. Plus I am hopeful that maybe she is right, he is having second thoughts--as much as I hate it, sometimes she still can tell what he is going to do better than I can. She told me he was done with the OW and he wasn't, but 4 days later he ended it with her... Any thoughts? What do I do? She calls a lot so I know I will talk to her over the weekend? I don't want to lie anymore but I don't know what to do, just tell her to ask him how things are going with us?? I am a little afraid to do that too, bc if she calls him in Denver and yells at him, tells him he better not move out and leave his family (She would TOTALLY do something like that), he may do it just to rebel against her? He gets back from Denver Sun. and moves out Mon. Thanks for advice!
