Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

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Ann, If my W did 10% of what you are doing I'd be so grateful! I think you've been giving and giving and giving. As many of us have tried to say in various ways you can only change you so don't try to change H, he'll change himself later. So maybe one change in you could be to set some clear boundaries with H regarding sex and domestic chores; he'll probably care and respect you the more for it. I got the Mars/Venus book on tape from the library and listened to a lot of it and this is one of the major points. There are also ways to deal with H's insecurities by building up your trust and admiration of his positive traits but I'll let you look it up because I don't have it on my finger tips. Try to rekindle what you liked about him in the first place. Enough of my theories ... you are doing well, take care ...