Things seem like they are going well for you. I'd like to interject a little "anti-DB" advice. At this point in the R with your wife, don't get hung up on LRT and what you shouldn't do in terms of pursuit. The only DB thing to really be sure about is "do what works". She is showing interest. She is making an effort to keep you around. And it sounds like she wants more of you than you are giving. You won't know that unless you are willing to show the side of you that is interested in a relationship with her. You can have a good hug. You can hang out with her if she wants (and you want to...don't forget that you also have a say in all that occurs here). You can show you care. If you are ever going to be a couple again, it can't be based on LRT and being aloof. If she's at the point where she wants to know "where are we at", then be frank with her. If you want to see where the relationship goes, you want to go on a date, or you want her to take the lead, then tell her so. If you're uncertain where things are headed, then tell her you need time to figure that out. You are doing good on words of affirmation. If she wants quality time, then it may not be inappropriate to suggest doing something together.
I see her making some strides of her own while you are making strides of your own. It's a fine line to walk between letting her know you'd like to give her a chance and making her think that a relationship with you is as easy as snapping her fingers. You'll figure out how to walk that line if you keep your eyes open for what seems to be working.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
