Better late than never?

[jon2911]

Sorry, I haven't read all your thread, but if you ML, go to dinner, say ILU and she says ILU too, then .... why the D?

Well, like so many others on here, I just found out why. Now my life the last six months makes so much more sense.

I suspected there was OM involved, but didn't know the extent, and that he was advising her when we separated and when she filed. They didn't last long, but then there was another OM after that.

Things have changed a lot now, and she complains about the OM to me and how he's OCD and won't leave her alone or take no for an answer. (Of course, I feel like saying "what the hell did you expect?", but I'm very empathetic and validating). So much for the greener grass.

W is having a lot of trouble at work, and wants to find another job. Really, she just needs to take a break with how bad her migraines have become. This morning she said "I should just quit and do Ebay and Mary Kay". That's what I've been telling her for a while (she's amazing with that Ebay stuff), but to do that she'd need to be on my benefits. So there have been a lot of positive signs. She's really noticed my GAL'ing, said "I can't even picture you doing that". At the same time, she says she plans to find a job and move 3 hours away to Houston, so I still have a long way to go.

This morning we were in court over a car accident over two years ago, and we won! It's so strange, seeing as we might be in court soon under very different circumstances. I wonder if she thought about that?

So, I have to say I'm convinced. This DB stuff really works. I really need to get down to defining goals and putting more of these principles in action. The situation seemed so hopeless a couple months ago, I almost gave up.

For now, we're going dancing tonight, and camping next weekend. So excited, this has been some of the most fun we've ever had. No R talk at all, I'm staying away from flowers and gifts, but wondering if I should test the waters that way a little. Anyone have experience on that?

Tomorrow I'll spend a day praying and thinking about goals and post them here.