H had an affair, now wants me back,,,

[ntl]

ntl, your story sounds so much like mine, my H had lots of job stress, he was working his job and often filling in for a missing boss or co-worker for the past 2 years, and I gained 40 pounds, not much sex and talking between us, so he found someone else to do that with. I am so glad I found this site and others here that are in similar situations! I think this site and AD's and therapy have surprisingly made me feel quite a bit better in the 6 weeks since he gave me the no longer in love with you (and want a divorce) speech...Karen43

Doesn't that speech just make you want to hurl?! I remember feeling like I lost my best friend and my brain in one fell swoop.

I hope you find the help you need here and that you find a way to make yourself strong while your marriage gets back on track. It feels so much better that way.

I have tough, tough moments and strong, strong moments.

I wish you luck!

My H is coming home tomorrow after being away for a while so I am excited. Of course, I have that sense of nervousness in my belly, too. I sometimes don't know how to act. I decide to act in the way that feels loving at the time.

My H likes to be affirmed, likes to feel like he's the protector of the family (even though it's just me and our doglet!) and I am going to try to push those buttons so he knows I care and that I need him.

Good luck and good DB'ing to all!!

Regards,

ntl