Hi Dave, I think you are definately right about the attraction thing. I have started standing up for myself a lot more then ever before. My biggest problem is that when i know he's feeling bad, part of me just steps up to sooth and comfort him no matter how he acts rather than keep standing up. I have to really pay attention to my reaction to what he says and how he acts towards me.

At some point, i'm hoping, he'll forgive me. I think when he does that he'll be able to look past the EA and see that (like lots say here) it was a symptom of a really bad R and certainly not the cause of the problems. I love him. I always will, you are right, i do not NEED him, but i don't want to lose him either. I'll just keep plugging away. My friend asked me how long i'd keep going at this without him forgiving me or seeing any thing in himself that needs changing and I don't know right now. Not forever ceratinly, but until it feels hopeless, i'm going to keep trying.

Thanks! \:\) ann

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