SBD - Thank you for your response... I think that you are right that i need to so something different. I think that what i've been doing to this point that been driving me crazy.
1. i know i shouldn't have any expectations. It's really hard for me and I'm trying. that's why i think what you are giving your W is so amazing. I wish i could look at him everyday and say, when you are ready, come back to me, but i have a really hard time with it. I'm trying though.
2. I could try that. I think i'm just really confused in my SL. I like sex. I have always enjoyed it. I don't want H. Not 100% sure why. I wish i did, so i could fix it. I'm afraid that a comment like that will do more damage than good, but i'm probably wrong. i do like the idea of it, but I think i'll have to work up to saying it. I'll try.
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You're an incredibly strong woman to have made it through all of this - keep up the great conviction, but PLEASE consider that what you're doing is still focused a LOT on changing him.
Thank you and I know. I have made a lot of changes in how i communicate with H. I've been reassuring him and giving him sex and i'm about 50/50 in responding to his advances. I've made changes. Everything I do is in an effort for him to be able to trust me and see that things are different. Now i just sit and wait while he treats me how he wants and does nothing to change? I just struggle with it. I just don't seem me being able to make the changes i need (falling back in love and being attracted to him) without him first making some. I know that i need to have no expectations and focus on what i can change (ME)though. Thank you...
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If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
