Armour up! Your children need you! Quit the mamby pamby stuff! You are the head of the household! Get legal advice. Secure your finances. Do the best to your ability to make your children's lives the best they can be. I'm tired of hearing the weakness. A good master sergeant would kick your butt and get you to see what your soldiers need. You have two dependents. If you fail them by the gods I'll find you and make you see the light!
Now is the time to get in touch with your legal counsel and get some advice. You can't help her, FLTC, but you can help the kids. Get it done.