Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

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Altas,

Thanks for the support, advice, hugs and compliments(all worth more than gold).

I do think that at some point it is something we need to talk about it. I did tell him the other night that i feel like he treats me like property and that hurts. He should show love, not ownership. He's really not violent and I honestly believe this was a one time thing. he knows that if he ever hit me or anything that i'd be gone, that and I'd hit him back...

I really struggle with how much reassurance to give vs. how much distance to ask for. It's like catch 22. He probably can't get past this and start treating me right until he feels like i'm all his and i can't fall back in love with him and give him that until he starts treating me nicer.

I don't really have any men in my life that i'm close to other than H. Expecially none that i'd feel comfortable sharing this with. I'm pretty close with my FIL, but there is no way he could be open minded about it and let me do the talking, he'd probably want to kick ass, even his own sons.... (he's always very protective of me, more of a dad than my own)

When we do talk about this, it will probably be in front of a counselor of something (eventually). I don't think he'll get mad, but more defensive about how bad he was hurting.

Thank you.