Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

[ann25]

Hi Dom,

I'm pretty sure I'm right about the "MINE" thing. For some reason, I've been remembering things and thinking about things the last few days and I think i've made some revelations that i didn't even realize before (why i'm feeling this way, why he's doing stuff) Anyways. He was never like this before, so i know it has something to do with this at minimum.

I put up with it a lot. He's not getting the reaction he likes because I don't like him doing it and in my mind, like with a puppy, i can't reward bad behavior.

I am constantly telling him that I'l all his, that noone will ever get in the way of that again. that i don't want anyone but him. Verbally, i can't do much more. Physically, i'm doing about as much as i can handle.

Actually, last night i was in the kitchen and he came in and rubbed his hand on my back. He said... oops, sorry i touched you. so i said that the touching doesn't bother me, its the way he does it. So i proceeded to show him exactly how it feels. He actually said ouch... I just wanted to laugh. I told him that i don't mind it when he's sweet about it, it's just when it doesn't feel like he's trying to be loving most times. That was it, the rest of the night went ok.

I think my problem is when he grabs me, it's more like get off then gimme a kiss. That will mentally be a big 180 for me... I'll give it a try.

Yeah... i need to drop the counselor thing. It was during the whole talk the other night and i was just on a roll... He obviously is still not willing, so I'll drop it. I will be seeing one for myself though!

Thanks Dom. As always, i appreciate your insight.