It was on dar's thread..."I need to think of a new name for my threads", if I remember right. The name pretty much says it all!
Do you REALLY want him to tell you if he is spending the weekend with OW? Really, really? Yes, the lying hurts, but, it's not like the truth would be a bouquet of flowers. I don't know, sometimes we need to be careful what we wish for, you know? Look at Kissak, her husband wanting her to talk to OW to patch up his R with OW!
Right, the OW is not worth the energy. So, put that into you. Results on retrieving H are not guaranteed, but you can save yourself. And have a better chance of saving your M.
