If they've gone dark on you, you need to GAL (I know that you'll get sick of hearing this). There is nothing else to do. Any 180's should be for you IMO. If you look at yourself and see something(s) you want to change just b/c you're not the woman you'd like to be. Then do it. Any change or 180 not done for you won't stick and it just becomes manipulation that won't work.
I know you can't change anything in the past. So what about your future? Do you have goals? What are they?
