ntl, your story sounds so much like mine, my H had lots of job stress, he was working his job and often filling in for a missing boss or co-worker for the past 2 years, and I gained 40 pounds, not much sex and talking between us, so he found someone else to do that with. I am so glad I found this site and others here that are in similar situations! I think this site and AD's and therapy have surprisingly made me feel quite a bit better in the 6 weeks since he gave me the no longer in love with you (and want a divorce) speech...Karen43
