Yes we were friends, and did many things together as 2 couples. I guess the reason for me is just as I see in so many cases, the OM gone, back, gone back. The fog is still there for my W and I think she is scared of facing up to what she became and what she did so then it is easier to remain in the fog.
I have hours to prepare myself so we shall see, and ofcourse I will try to keep you posted. It will hard to come here from my home computer though.