Hi Essie, your sitch sounds much like mine...its horrible isnt it, you try and be brave and accept it, but of course you miss them and count the days and feel powerless I guess. I also have no kids so worry theres no ties there, but we have joint property so some reason to speak to me, unless we decide to sell up. My BF of 9 years left 2 1/2 months ago and at first he sounds same as your H, being defensive and angry. I made the decision to stop contact and I also set myself a 30 day limit and am also not sure what will happen at end of Jan ! Hmm..
My BF also suffered an "emotionally" absent father and domineering mother and his Dad died 2 1/2 years ago, which I think started all this..we also, like you, moved away a year ago and then he did the ILYBINILWY. I also am finding it a bit hard, living alone now and not knowing many people..but gradually, invitations come in and things start to happen..its like they say, if you create a vacuum, something will rush in to fill it. Its not easy though being in this situation far from home, I agree with you. I'm going for a job in a brasserie, where the staff are lovely, may be a way to meet single people. You could try that?
I'd be interested to know how your NC is going, I struggle daily, but then distract myself and before you know it, another day has gone by. Congratulate yourself on being strong and not picking up the phone, keep going...
---------------------- Me: 36 H: 34 T: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Moved out: 15 Nov 07 NC: 1 Jan
