W has filed for the D,where to from here

[HHIF]

micoms yes that is a book,it's advice is similar to DR.

I have had time to think about things and I am not angry,just thinking about being a little less available and maybe not quiet so nice.

I can never be mean to W I love her and feel I always will no matter what happens.

Grid you talked about letting all D talk go through attorneys and that's kind of where I'm at.

W wants her and I to talk and agree on finances,assets,kids etc.and I want to keep the good communication and friendliness going but I can't sit there and talk about ending our marriage and breaking up our family,when it goes against everything I believe and want.

W is wanting us to do what we can so the attorneys time will be less and the fees won't bankrupt us,I don't want to spend the money either and know the financial stress this has put us under,but I feel like this is something she has done and I shouldn't do anything to make it easier or quicker for her to get the D.

If we lose everything because of this she will have to live with that burden,I didn't want this and have been doing everything I can to stop it.

We are supposed to have dinner tomorrow night and she is expecting us to sit down and agree on things to give to the attorneys,I can't have that conversation,if she wants to talk about reconciling and healing our M I will 100% behind that,but I won't sit there and calmly talk about ending our marriage.

She may get pissed,but hopefully she will respect me for standing up for what I believe is right.