H had an affair, now wants me back,,,

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Ntl.

I so admire your courage.
I would think your situation is much worse than mine.
I wish my estranged W had the same endurance as you. Maybe she did but I needed a swift kick between the legs to 'wake me up'.

I wish I could turn the clock back or undo all the past. Some people are stubborn and they won't forgive or/and feel foolish to themselves and friends/family and have no respect for themselves if they came back.
Of course the spouse they have left would have to make huge changes and there would have to be a lot of work.
But my ex doesn#t think I can change and wouldn't take the risk.
But life is a risk. If she met with OM that would be a risk.

I admire you for keeping in there. I hope he sorts himself out.