Hi lwb. I totally get the confusion. I totally get the effects of ML with your fence sitting spouse.

Hang in there, lady. Time will reveal all.

Me29
H33
D9 months
S2
S9(previous R)
Sep 8-19-07
I file 11-5-07
H home (Retro) 2-15-08
"Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9