Why are you on a site like AFF? Curiosity? The fact that you've allowed yourself to get all these emails makes me worried. It is easy to get drawn in to things without realizing it. Sorry for sounding like such a cow, but please stay away from that site. It will only feed your soul in a bad way.
Are you saying that your ex-bf has joined this site? Is that what lead you to join... to check it out? Well, once again, I say, stay away.
I hope you are getting some rest tonight. If you can't fall asleep, watch the political stuff on tv..it's enough to put anyone to sleep!