Palgal, Thanks for your reply. I will keep a close watch on my friend, but I do feel he really understands where I am coming from (as he knows me and my H's sitch pretty well and the vulnerable state that I am in). Now that we have talked, my friend is supporting my decision to just stay as friends and he is ok with it. I have not talked face to face with my H since he left in mid-Dec. H is the one that is not contacting me, so I have no choice that i can not talk to him about my life and what I do everynight. I rarely stay home and sit around anymore, I am constantly out with one of my friends or family members doing something fun and exciting. I think of this work party as no different than any other night of the week that I am out doing things with people (other than the fact that I can get dolled up and have a wonderful feast and ball-for free!)To me this is just another part of GAL and FOCUSING on me. If I (very doubtfully) see or talk to H before our friends company work-party, I will kindly let him know that I am going to the work party - along with letting him know all of the other wonderful things I have been doing to move forward. I am thinking that I should probably call the in-laws ahead of time, so that if they hear about it they will not think that I am having some kind of an A. My In-laws know this friend that is taking me also, and I am sure they will understand that by no means is this any sort of A, just simply me needing to GAL. I do feel weird calling them though-since the last time I talked to his mom on the phone was christmas, and she said she would be keeping in touch & wants to set up a dinner night with me: but I have not heard back from her since. I guess I am assuming and thinking the worst: that she knows something that she does not want me to have to here about H - maybe OW/A. So I am fearful to call her because of this weird silence on her behalf, I have been putting it off, so that I don't have to take so much pain all at once. I do know that I love and respect his family, and that I wouldn't want them assuming anything that is not true, so I should probably suck it up and call her soon. TIPPER
