HELP!! my 25 y/o H walked out... maybe mlc? HELP!!

[darkestangel]

I haven't spoken to H since Tuesday (today it's Thursday). H sent me a message on myspace, which he has never ever done before. it simply said, "How was your day today?"

Is this him reaching out? H initiating phone calls/ messages was one of my small goals. It might mean nothing, but it's WAY BETTER than actually nothing.

I wrote him back and said, "My day was great. I went out to lunch with a friend, then I took d3 to the petting zoo. I stopped by the chiropractor's on the way to the mall, where I met up with a friend and then went home late and made dinner for me & d3. How was your day?"

How was that? I actually did do all those things, so I wasn't lying. I thought about just writing, "it was fine, how was yours?" but then I thought that message would have been construed as cold. As I wrote my message to him, I kept thinkiing, "friendly and distracted. think friendly yet distracted."

I love the remark above about emotionally retarded men. that is exactly what he is!

I think and i hope this A with this 37 year old OW isn't anything special. There's always the chance that it is, but nonetheless, it's out of my hands so there's nothing I can do about it. I know what WE had was veryt true and very real. H is acting like a teenager again, and he just doesn't see it.

I do feel like a better me. We only had one car, so last week I went out and bought a very small car for myself, which was great. I signed up to volunteer with foster care youth, which is something I've always wanted to do. I'm thinking about taking motorcycle classes, just for the fun of it. I can take d3 to different places now, when before H would have our car when he went to work and we would be stuck home all the time.

Every day, I feel a bit better and better. Still the highs and the lows, but the highs are getting higher, and the lows, not so low